A Fresh Start

The minister of another church explained to me what he thinks happens when a minister counsels someone. After a person shares his personal life with a minister, the person will begin to feel uncomfortable around the minister. People avoid a minister after he has counseled them because the minister knows too much about their problems, or sins.

That minister set up a booby trap in his mind: he expected relationships to fail. So they did. He borrowed ideas from popular psychology, instead of relying on the Bible. Popular psychology teaches that we should develop our will power, our independence, and our reliance on our own abilities. But the Bible teaches us that we should submit to God's will, become more dependent on Him, and rely on His power and His love.

Some people think that the stigma associated with wrong behavior hangs on and follows us around until we use our own will power and abilities to overcome that stigma. But the Bible says we can have a fresh start on life simply by going to God in prayer and turning it all over to Him.

After we have repented of our sins, we no longer need to feel uncomfortable about them. When we sin, we ask Christ to forgive us. And we ask His help not to keep repeating the same sins. Once Christ has forgiven our sins, no one has any right to make us feel guilty or imperfect. Christ has removed our guilt and is making us perfect. (Col 2)

Christ is our example. Since He forgives and forgets, we should do the same. (Heb 10:17) We should forgive others and forget their sins. That way we can all have a fresh start. We can each have a fresh start with our relationship with God. And we can have a fresh start with our relationship with each other. How? Through love. (Luke 7:47)

Jesus identified the greatest commandments. "Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind." And "Love your neighbor as yourself." (Mt 22:34-40) Without love, it does not matter what "psychology" you use. Without love, you will be nothing, you will gain nothing. (1 Cor 13) "...The only thing that counts is faith expressing itself through love." (Gal 5:1-6) Are you looking for a fresh start on life? Give love a try!

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